Couples Therapy works extremely well to strengthen a current relationship, to understand more about aspects of stress in a relationship, and also to handle many different issues that occur in interpersonal relationships.The journey to real love requires commitment, understanding the dynamics and stages of relationships and new ways of communicating and relating. In Relationship Counseling, the most important rule is to identify what’s wrong and do something about it.
One of several essential aspects of couples therapy is that it is confidential. Couples Therapy is also non-judgmental, performed in a safe space in which people will be helped and assisted with anything they need.
Couples Therapy is a form of interaction designed to help couples work out conflicts and other issues in their lives when they are no longer able to communicate effectively on their own. Treatment aims to assist a couple learn to:
- Communicate effectively, each person must be given the chance to fully say what is on his/her mind;
- Argue constructively versus destructively;
- Negotiate solutions, reaching a compromise both parties can live with.
Who can benefit from Couple’s Therapy?
Couple’s therapy is for any couple struggling with some aspect of their relationship. Couples do not have to be married or even living together to receive help. It should also be noted not every couple who comes in for counseling is in deep trouble. Some couples see the therapy as a way to be pro-active about their relationship, helping them learn better communication skills to keep everything on the best possible track.
Every couple brings different issues to the table, so there is no single set schedule for how long therapy takes to achieve the desired results. Most couples will visit their therapist for about an hour once a week, with most couples spending a minimum of one month in counseling.
Couple’s Therapy can help couples deal with issues including, but not limited to:
- Death in the family
- Chronic/Terminal illness
- Financial problems
- Communication problems
- Child rearing issues
- Sexual incompatibility
- Career stress/resentment
- Cultural differences
- Domestic violence
When to seek Couples Therapy
Couples often ask, “When should a couple seek counseling?” The answer is most often: “Six months ago.”
Couples, especially those with busy work schedules and children, often put off coming to therapy, either because they are too busy with their daily schedules or they are denying that there is a need to come in for counseling at all. Often, couples are hesitant to talk about issues for fear of opening a much larger “can of worms.” Sometimes communication has broken down to the point of not being able to discuss even the smallest of issues.
What are the signs that it is time for a couple to seek counseling? Here are a few to look for:
- Feeling distant from your partner
- Increase in arguments, arguments over the same issues
- When one or both partners mention “divorce” or “separation”
- Lack of affection or no physical intimacy
- Lack of interest
- Avoiding spending time with each other
- Poor communication, “he/she doesn’t listen”
- Inadequate support
- Emotional infidelity
- Not spending time together
If you recognize even one of these signs, the time to take action is now. Don’t wait until the relationship deteriorates even further. Relationships themselves are never bad, the interaction and communication between a couple is no longer working successfully and needs a “tune-up” to work more effectively. Often in cases such as these, counseling can improve the skills needed to maintain a healthy, happy and fulfilling relationship.