Domestic violence and abuse is a pattern of controlling and coercive conduct that serves to deprive victims of safety and autonomy.Domestic violence and abuse is defined as a pattern of abusive behaviors by one or both partners in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence and abuse has many forms, including physical aggression, threats; sexual abuse, emotional abuse, controlling or domineering, intimidation, stalking, neglect and economic deprivation. Alcohol consumption and mental illness can accompany abuse, and present additional challenges when present alongside patterns of abuse.
Domestic violence affects people from every ethnic group, social class, gender, and race. To prevent domestic violence and abuse, it’s not only necessary to prosecute the perpetrators, but also vital to understand its root causes.
Domestic violence and abuse perpetrators believe they are entitled to power and control over their partners and perceive all interactions within relationships through a prism of compliance or disobedience. Domestic violence and abuse perpetrators use abusive tactics to reinforce their rules and maintain absolute control over their victims. The Domestic violence and abuse perpetrators often appear charming and attentive to outsiders, and even to their partners, at first. Many perpetrators are very good at disguising their abusive behavior to appear socially acceptable. Once they develop a relationship with a partner however, they become more and more abusive.
Domestic violence and abuse is often a complex issue, our domestic violence and abuse counselor has received special training to address this confusing and complex problem.
Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of size, gender, or strength, yet the problem is often overlooked, excused, or denied. This is especially true when the abuse is psychological, rather than physical. Emotional abuse is often minimized, yet it can leave deep and lasting scars.
Noticing and acknowledging the warning signs and symptoms of domestic violence and abuse is the first step to ending it. No one should live in fear of the person they love. If you recognize yourself or someone you know in the following warning signs and descriptions of abuse, don’t hesitate to reach out. Our domestic violence and abuse counselor can help you.
Who can benefit from Domestic Violence and Abuse Counseling?
Any person who is experiencing or have experienced domestic violence and abuse will need emotional support of some kind, but their needs will vary. All victims need to be listened to with respect and without being judged when they choose to talk about their experiences. They want to be believed – and to feel they have been understood.
The aim of counseling is to help you understand yourself better and come to terms with what has happened to you. Counseling will help you to break away from past abusive relationships and work towards living in a way which is more constructive and adaptive. If you are seeking counseling because you have engaged in domestic abusive behavior, please be aware that some of your disclosures may need to be reported under relevant state abuse reporting laws. This will be explained to you during the intake procedure.
When to seek Domestic Violence and Abuse Counseling
If you are being abused by your partner, you may feel confused, afraid, angry and/or trapped. All of these emotions are normal responses to abuse. You may also blame yourself for what is happening. But no matter what others might say, you are never responsible for your partner’s abusive actions. You are invited to call or email to schedule an initial consultation.