Divorce and Separation are public admissions that a relationship no longer works for one or both partners.Break-ups are often painful as practical matters, including children and possessions, have to be addressed amid emotional distress. Some relationships are unable to contain some of life’s pressures and stresses; illness, redundancy, retirement or debt all take their toll. A life change; redundancy, retirement or children leaving home, can leave one partner excluded and despairing.
Demand for a divorce can be an expression of anger or disappointment with the relationship, in which case Couples Counseling may help clarify and process the strong emotions involved for both parties.
The discovery of an affair or betrayal can leave a partner feeling they have no option but to separate. Dealing openly with these issues in couples counseling can help couples either decide that the relationship can be salvaged or that permanent separation is appropriate. In either scenario, couples are often best served by engaging in treatment and dealing with the realities of their situation in productive ways.
Who can benefit from Divorve and Separation Counseling?
Support for the adults during the separation and divorce process can be provided in a number of ways. Separation and divorce counseling can be helpful in sorting through the many decisions that need to be made, in coping with the strong emotions elicited by a separation or by the divorce process. By learning to manage partners’ emotional reactivity to one another, and in helping children with the emotional distress that accompanies parental conflict, it is possible to work together or individually towards these goals, in conjoint or individual therapy. Family therapy which includes the children is also frequently of significant assistance to both the adults and the children.
When to seek Divorce and Separation Counseling
The public admission of the failure of a relationship can be accompanied by strong emotions such sadness, disappointment, despair and anger. It can be helpful to process these with an experienced counselor to reduce conflict, improve cooperation between parties and to pave the way for cooperative coparenting in the event that separation proves permanent. Counseling may also improve the relationship, resulting in reconciliation. Counseling will be conducted with objectivity and sensitivity so that successful outcomes may be achieved regardless of the ultimate fate of the relationship. Mr. Attryde is experienced in treating issues related to separation and divorce and you are invited to contact him to set up an initial consultation to assess treatment needs.