Assertiveness counseling

Assertiveness counseling

Assertiveness Counseling

Assertiveness counseling It is important to try to behave assertively in order to: meet and express your own needs, respect and communicate with others effectively, engage in fulfilling relationships. Assertiveness is the ability to express your feelings, opinions, beliefs, and needs directly, openly and honestly, while not violating the personal rights of others. Assertiveness does not in any way means being aggressive. Aggressive behavior is self enhancing at the expense of others. It does not take other individual's rights into consideration.

Assertive behaviour involves acting in a way which is neither passive nor aggressive but a happy medium between the two. If you can act assertively you will express your own needs, wants and feelings, but in a manner which is constructive and which allows others the opportunity to express their own.

If you behave in a passive manner all or most of the time, then it is likely your own needs, feelings and wants will go unmet, unfulfilled and unrecognized. On the other hand if you behave in an aggressive manner it is unlikely that you will participate in relationships which are genuinely fulfilling and involve genuine communication and respect.

If you are behaving in passive or aggressive ways and would like to become more assertive, what can be helpful to you is to start to identify the thought patterns that are underpinning your non-assertive behaviour and to find effective ways of challenging or overcoming them.

Some common thoughts or beliefs underpinning passive behavior are: the thought that if you express a viewpoint that the other person does not like they will become upset. The thought that if you express your own feelings and needs you may be being selfish. The thought that you don't deserve to have your needs met.

If these are thoughts with which you can identify then it is likely that you experience low self esteem and will benefit from information or coaching to help you improve your self esteem and deal with the negative thought patterns which contribute to your lack of assertiveness and your lack of confidence or self belief.
When to seek Assertiveness Counseling Assertiveness Counseling involves a collaborative effort between you and your counselor. The aim is to provide an open, supportive, and confidential environment for you to address the issues that are concerning you.

If you believe, or those around you believe, that your symptoms may be impairing your life in troubling ways, then it may be time to seek help. There are treatments available to assist you in managing your symptoms and improving your quality of life. To schedule a consultation, please contact us.

First Step

Through Assertiveness Counseling you can reduce troubling symptoms and create positive change in your life. You’ll begin to identify what isn’t working and the effects these patterns are having on your relationships, mood, and productivity. It is possible to uncover a healthier, happier you. You can get your needs met, find and keep love, grow professionally, and build a satisfying life. Don’t waste another day! Get started today with a free Assertiveness Counseling Consultation.

Effective Asertiveness Counseling Factors

Define your goals. Think about what you would like to get out of counseling. It might be helpful to write a list of events, relationship issues, or feelings that you think are contributing to your distress.

Be an active participant. This is your counseling experience, so be as active as you can in deciding how to use the time. Be honest with the counselor and give her or him feedback about how you see the sessions progressing.

Be patient with yourself. Growth takes time, effort, and patience. All of your coping skills, behavior patterns, and self-perceptions have been learned and reinforced over a long period of time, so change can be difficult and slow at times.

Follow your counselor's recommendations. Take the time between sessions to complete any activities suggested by your counselor. Counseling is intended to improve your life in the "real world," so making efforts to try out and practice new behaviors, approaches, or ways of thinking could be a crucial element to the success of your counseling experience.